Sunday, July 21, 2013

Day 91: Sharing Joy

This is a story I've seen a few times and most recently again, on social media.  It has a heart warming message on the power of spreading joy!

It will take just 37 seconds to read this and change your thinking..

Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room.

One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs.

His bed was next to the room's only window.

The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back.

The men talked for hours on end.

They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation..

Every afternoon, when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.

The man in the other bed began to live for those one hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the world outside.

The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake.
Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats. Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every color and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance.

As the man by the window described all this in exquisite details, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine this picturesque scene.

One warm afternoon, the man by the window described a parade passing by.

Although the other man could not hear the band - he could see it in his mind's eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words.

Days, weeks and months passed.

One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep.

She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away.

As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.

Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the real world outside.
He strained to slowly turn to look out the window besides the bed.

It faced a blank wall.

The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things outside this window.

The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall.


She said, 'Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you.'

Epilogue:

There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situations.
Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled.
If you want to feel rich, just count all the things you have that money can't buy.
'Today is a gift, that is why it is called The Present .'

The origin of this letter is unknown, but please pass it on.

Share it with friends and tag them so the cycle continues ... Do not keep this letter ... You could change a life too

Friday, July 19, 2013

Day 90: Christian Marriage Advice

Summer is winding down (sad face :(  so this means less mommy journal time for this mommy!  
I do have another good article to share and this one is about marriage and although it's written as more directed towards girls, it contains really good principles and could apply to either partner.  I'm definitely sharing it with my children! I wish this information was more readily available and promoted in our society.  Might decrease our divorce rate and make for happier marriages overall. 

Thursday, July 18, 2013

Day 90: Just for Today by Sally Meyer

This is the email message (poem) I received so many years ago that I've kept pinned to my refrigerator for a daily reminder!  :)

Just for Today
by Sally Meyer

To my child:

Just for this morning, I am going to smile when I see your face and laugh when I feel like crying.

Just for this morning, I will let you choose what you want to wear and smile and say how perfect it is. J

Just for this morning, I am going to step over the laundry, and pick you up and take you to the park to play.

Just for this morning, I will leave the dishes in the sink and let you teach me how to put that puzzle of yours together.

Just for this afternoon, I will unplug the telephone and keep the computer off, and sit with you in the backyard and blow bubbles.

Just for this afternoon, I will not yell once, not even a tiny grumble when you scream and whine for the ice cream truck and I will buy you one if he comes by.

Just for this afternoon, I won’t worry about what you are going to be when you grow up, or second guess every decision I have made where you are concerned.

Just for this afternoon, I will let you help me bake cookies and I won’t stand over you trying to fix them.

Just for this afternoon, I will take us to McDonald’s and buy us both a Happy Meal so you can have both toys.

Just for this evening, I will hold you in my arms and tell you a story about how you were born and how much I love you.

Just for this evening, I will let you splash in the tub and not get angry.

Just for this evening, I will snuggle beside you for hours, and miss my favorite TV shows.

Just for this evening, when I run my fingers through your hair as you pray …….
I will simply be grateful that God has given me the greatest gift ever given.  I will think about all the mothers and fathers who are searching for their missing children, the mothers and fathers who are visiting their children’s graves instead of their bedrooms, and the mothers and fathers who are in hospital rooms watching their children suffer senselessly, and screaming inside that they can’t handle it anymore.


And when I kiss you goodnight, I will hold you a little tighter, a little longer.  It is then that I will thank God for you, and ask him for nothing, except one more day……..

Day 89: Slow Your Roll ;)

Any parent can tell you that life is busy!  That's not really hard to grasp, but I also think any parent can also tell you that "feeling" busy is totally different.  
About the time that I had my 2nd child, I began to feel that "rush" start to creep in.  I didn't like it.  I knew it wasn't good and I didn't want to have my precious babies' childhood go by in a flash while I was "busy" cleaning, cooking, working etc.  So I had that "epiphany"....which for me, often comes in the way of a daily inspiration, prayer, message etc. and I've said so often before that God often speaks to me exactly when I need to hear it most!  
So this post is about slowing down.  And I had an an email message that came to me from a friend many, many years ago that helped articulate quite nicely--just what how I was feeling and what I needed to be reminded of.....in the nick of time :)  Just as my babes were toddling, crawling and the third one in the oven ;)

Then today I saw a post on social media that was a good reminder.  I'm going to post both of the messages here too.......because maybe, just maybe, somebody reading this needs this eye opener or needs this reminder......or maybe they too can appreciate the message.  

And while my babes are really no longer babes.....the same is still true.  We have to SAVOR life and times together!!  So just last week I was in the barbie aisle with my youngest.....and I thought to myself (ok, every time we do this, I always find myself telling her it's time to go after a few minutes and I am going to make a conscious effort this time to make sure I let her browse until her little heart's content <3  I don't care if we're standing in this aisle when the store closes.....I'm just going to let her peruse and she can tell me when she's ready to go!)
So I did!  And boy did it feel good.  I wondered later if she even noticed.  Then today she and I were reading the article in the link that I'm attaching to this post and I said to her..."do you remember the other day in the barbie aisle?  ..." and so then we talked about how I had made an effort to SLOW MY ROLL :)  
I guess it's good that she didn't notice it that day because maybe that means I'm doing better about it than I think I am.  :)  
It's one of those MOMMY things I'm always working on improving! 

So here's an excellent article: 
http://www.handsfreemama.com/2013/07/16/the-day-i-stopped-saying-hurry-up/

and here's the other message that I received those many, many years ago.....on the brink of parenting that I have kept clipped to my refrigerator as a daily reminder to......SLOW MY ROLL!!!

Just for Today
by Sally Meyer

To my child:

Just for this morning, I am going to smile when I see your face and laugh when I feel like crying.

Just for this morning, I will let you choose what you want to wear and smile and say how perfect it is. J

Just for this morning, I am going to step over the laundry, and pick you up and take you to the park to play.

Just for this morning, I will leave the dishes in the sink and let you teach me how to put that puzzle of yours together.

Just for this afternoon, I will unplug the telephone and keep the computer off, and sit with you in the backyard and blow bubbles.

Just for this afternoon, I will not yell once, not even a tiny grumble when you scream and whine for the ice cream truck and I will buy you one if he comes by.

Just for this afternoon, I won’t worry about what you are going to be when you grow up, or second guess every decision I have made where you are concerned.

Just for this afternoon, I will let you help me bake cookies and I won’t stand over you trying to fix them.

Just for this afternoon, I will take us to McDonald’s and buy us both a Happy Meal so you can have both toys.

Just for this evening, I will hold you in my arms and tell you a story about how you were born and how much I love you.

Just for this evening, I will let you splash in the tub and not get angry.

Just for this evening, I will snuggle beside you for hours, and miss my favorite TV shows.

Just for this evening, when I run my fingers through your hair as you pray …….
I will simply be grateful that God has given me the greatest gift ever given.  I will think about all the mothers and fathers who are searching for their missing children, the mothers and fathers who are visiting their children’s graves instead of their bedrooms, and the mothers and fathers who are in hospital rooms watching their children suffer senselessly, and screaming inside that they can’t handle it anymore.


And when I kiss you goodnight, I will hold you a little tighter, a little longer.  It is then that I will thank God for you, and ask him for nothing, except one more day……..


Sunday, July 14, 2013

Day 88: Family Day

I've written before about how our son was going to this program this summer for 5 weeks!!  Last weekend was Family Day which meant that families could  visit the campus and take their child for the day to spend time off campus with them.  What a wonderful visit we had!!  I was really impressed with the campus and it's facilities but oh, how I enjoyed having our boy around again!!  I just LOVE when all my little chics are under one roof!!  Even though it was only for one day-- we're so thankful that we were given a visit day!  It's unbelievably hard to have your child gone for so long....even for a great opportunity and experience as this!  Then today in church, a group of Scholar students were recognized and it made me miss our son so much more!  They are here attending the same program at our local University's campus and as I glanced at the group--I could see my own son among them.  The program opts to send students to another town from which they live so that they can gain the full experience of being away to college.  It sure was nice to see all those students at church....even if it made me aware of my of an empty seat in our aisle :(

Day 87: Journaling

You may notice that the introduction to my blog refers to how I used to keep a mommy journal on my old computer......well guess what I found today??/  The files of that old mommy journal!!!  I'm so excited!!  
And in going back through my entries today.....I found myself completely bawling with tears of JOY!!  Life passes so quickly.....and it is a precious, beautiful gift!  
In honor of the whole gratitude movement--I have to say that the best way to feel grateful is to regularly and continually evaluate your life and the many blessings in it.  Even the difficult times we all face......we can be thankful for what they teach us and how they help us grow and mold into what God wants us to become.  Wow!  I read 40 pages covering approximately 4 years of my life when our babies were babies and I have one thought-Thank You God!

Now--I am trying to think of a way to incorporate those older entries into my blog ......just so that everything will be in one place.  Hmmmm......I will have to think about how best to do that.  But it sure was a treat to discover that all that journaling was saved and accessible.  Now, I do still have the handwritten journal that started it all.....so hopefully it can all be combined and composed into one format for my children to keep.  That's why I started all of this in the first place.  And I was just thinking about this again today while on some social media sites--that today's "journal" for many will be their social media timelines.  What's nice is that children of today's social media will have wonderful journals with full color pictures and even video chronical-ing their lives.  I can think of a few friends with babies and just in their first year of life--have developed wonderfully documented journals of so many things our generation probably did not have.  We were the home video generation--but today's youth will have so much more!  It's truly amazing to think about.  

Day 86: Father/Daughter Dance-Laura & Ray White's Father Daughter Dance




It's ironic that my last post was titled Dads and Daughters because today I come to post an adorably cute Father/Daughter dance from a recent friend's daughter's wedding.  Those who know me well, know I have a THING for wedding videos (reminiscent of the famous JK Wedding Dance that went viral a few years ago!)  but I absolutely LOVE watching a good video clip from a fun wedding!  This one is cute too.  I can totally see my own husband doing something silly with our daughters at their wedding too!
These type of videos always make me CRY--but in a good way.  Tears of joy for happy people celebrating and loving life!  Good Times!